Here are a few "memories" from the emails we have received: Keep them coming guys!
Taboo
I wrote this for the Duran Duran Unseen book when Paul Edmonds was looking for people's personal stories of their love of the band, (apparently he liked it, but it didn't fit with the final direction of the book). It was written in August 2004, so before SOC & Berlin & Hammersmith & Vegas - but it still tells how I got into the band & pretty much what their music means to me. Oh - & it's long - sorry!!! 
Coming Alive.
I can’t remember exactly when it started, this infatuation, this obsession with Duran Duran. I must have been about 14, & painfully shy, not many friends, & absolutely no fashion sense – still not a person, just a daughter. I know I had gone to a party with my dad – a birthday party (18th or 21st, I’m not sure), for a family friend’s son. There was a large marquee, & lights, & music. I stayed in the corner, wanting to stay hidden, afraid of the fun around me, finding it alien – I couldn’t be like that! Then all of a sudden, there was a guy, a really nice looking guy, dancing & pointing over at me – the track being played was “hungry Like The Wolf”, & he was really pointing to me, & singing as he danced closer – “I’m on the hunt I’m after you……”
By the end of the party, I had got up & danced, for the first time, & found that I could do this – I could have fun – be myself – started to find who I might be – it was an awakening!
But more than that had been awoken. That song, spinning round my head for days after, (it had been played 3 or 4 times at the party) – Hungry Like the Wolf!!! I started to look for more – tuned my little radio, & found a local station on which I caught the end of the Duran Duran track, & from then on I listened avidly for more. I started buying magazines – anything which had a mention of the group - & any with pictures!! Slowly my room became papered with images of the group, & most of all John Taylor!! I thought that he, John Taylor, was the most perfect guy I had ever seen – I even used to follow a guy around our town because he looked like John – he was 6’2”, had the JT hair do & fringe, & he was even called John! I used to call on him, & he even lent me his Duran Duran albums – all two of them by then!!!
It was the most exciting time – everything was good, everything was moving forward, & all the time there was this soundtrack to my life, created by Duran Duran – I felt so alive & I grew up!!
From the late 1980’s, & through the 1990’s, I did all the grown up things – married, divorced, married again. Children, university, career, mortgage, new car, summer holiday once a year. My life revolved around work, the children, & shopping in Tescos – with an occasional night out with girls from work. This was my life. This was what I had worked for, aspired to even – wasn’t that what life was supposed to be??
Last January, I was looking around the internet, looking for tickets for my eldest daughter to go & see a group she liked play live. It made me think of when I was her age, 15, with all that hope & energy for life, & what lay ahead. Made me think of the concerts I had been to – Ultravox, OMD, Spandau Ballet, Bruce Springsteen, Queen!! - & of the one I’d never managed to see – Duran Duran. Then suddenly there they were – on the list of concerts on the ticket web site on the screen in front of me – quickly I clicked on their name - & saw it – “all five original members”. I had been aware over the years of the various incarnations of the group – but this was going to be real – them, all of them, as they were – my teenage dream! I bought tickets!
On the night of the concert, I followed the crowd, into the M.E.N. Arena in Manchester, waited patiently, read the program, excitement growing. What would they be like? Would they sound the same?? The support act came & went, & the crowd cheered. Then, with the lights down, a slow, thudding beat, becoming faster, stronger, more urgent – like my heartbeat – like that of the whole crowd in the arena. The deafening noise of the swell of the crowd, as in one voice we screamed as the five silhouettes walked silently to the front of the stage, & stood, statuesque, to survey the crowd – their crowd. Then just when I thought I could burst, it began. Music – the full richness of the rhythm, the drums, the guitar riffs, Simon’s wonderful voice (so distinctive), & the bass – John’s bass! For the next two hours I sang & danced my heart out – up in a seat in one of the tiers, about 3 blocks back from the stage, I had an overview of the whole performance – when they did The Chauffeur, all bathed in blue light, it was like they did it for me – each haunting note went right to my soul.
The concert over, with a 7 hour journey home the next day, I was in a daze. All I knew, was that something long forgotten had stirred again, & I had to see them again. I scoured the internet for a ticket, I knew that they were playing Cardiff the following week, & I had to be there! Finally, on the Sunday night, I got a ticket! It was all I could think of – the concert on Wednesday. I had to work during the day, & didn’t manage to get away until mid afternoon – with a 2 & half hour drive to the venue, I was urging the miles past. Arriving at the C.I.A. in Cardiff, I found I had made good time & the queues, with only half an hour to go before the doors were due to open, were fairly short. I had a standing ticket! When the doors opened, like all those around me, I was asked to walk into the hall, but we ran! Like teenagers again, desperate for the best position, the best view. I had dared to hope that I might have been within perhaps a dozen or so people form the stage – certainly able to see the band – really in the flesh, rather than the bird’s eye view I had had a week before. When I found myself standing & holding the front rails, on the left of the arena, John Taylor’s side I knew, I could barely catch my breath. Chatting, animatedly to those around me, I found myself among equals, all of us there, for one purpose – to see Duran Duran, to sing with them, & dance to them, & live our teenage dreams again. This time, when the bass beat started, with the lights down, I knew what was coming!! My heart raced away, faster than the throbbing sound, & when they finally walked out on stage, the feeling of life, of being alive, of wanting so much to be there & to be me – to do exactly what I was doing for the whole two hours ahead, was almost overwhelming. It was the most exciting & exhilarating experience. I had rediscovered what I had lost along the way – through getting on with living & had lost what it was to feel alive, but Duran Duran gave that back to me.
Since the concerts, hungry for more, wanting to know what the plans for the future of Duran Duran were, I did a few searches through Google, & found web sites dedicated to the group. With the web sites I found fans, & fan forums, & I found many like minded people. Suddenly I had friends all over the world, who shared my passion for Duran, & I can’t wait to be able to meet these friends in October at the Secret Oktober Convention, to share with them the music of the new album, & to re-live the concerts n the DVD. Looking forward to some future date when they tour again, to be able to re-capture the magic of seeing them live. Beyond that, I have an ultimate goal of actually meeting them, to speak to John Taylor, & tell him what a difference he, & the others in the band, have made to my life, & to thank them. In so many ways Duran Duran & their music have shaped my life – always making me feel good, & always reminding me what’s good in life. Like this summer – on holiday, walking along a beach at the edge of the sea, burning hot sun, and waves breaking & washing over my feet – what was I humming to myself in this paradise?? Save A Prayer of course!
Shannon:
If I remember right, on MTV late at night sometimes, they would have "mtv world premiere videos". I knew OF Duran, I'd never really paid too much attention to them. This one night was the premier of "new moon on monday". I came so close to changing the channel, but for some reason, I didn't. Well, three and one half minutes later, that was it. They had me hooked. A couple of weeks after that, I was in love with John. Twenty-two years later, the Duran(and john) love has never cooled. The music has got me through many good and bad times. I love them!
Kags:
OK Sammie, I promised you last night I'd respond to this when I was a little more coherent, but for someone who never bloody shuts up this has always been difficult for me to put into words properly. But you've inspired me, so I'll do my best, and here goes.......
For the most part, my teenage years were not a happy time for me. I was a complete outsider at school (well looking like David Baddiel, playing the violin, and being basically a nerd with a massive chip on my shoulder was never gonna help!), wasn't into the whole drinking cider in the park listening to unspeakably crap dance music thing, and was interested in my school work, but most of the teachers treated me as as much of an outsider as the pupils. I had a terrible relationship with my dad, who deemed it appropriate to vent his frustrations with the way his life had turned out on me, and make me feel solely responsible. And I felt ugly. Really and truly ugly. I thought I was hugely overweight, repulsive to look at, and became just very angry with myself and the world in general.
Then I saw a few videos on VH1. I heard some songs. I watched some programmes. I became mesmerised by five beautiful people on my TV screen, read anything I could get my hands on about them (and being pre-internet, this was harder said than done!). It seemed to me that here a group of people were telling me it TRULY didn't matter what other people thought of me, if THEY told me I was ugly, if THEY told me I was uninteresting, or useless or pathetic. All that mattered was me and what i thought, and if i simply decided for myself that I was fabulous, then i WAS fabulous. Simple as that.
In my horrible grey little world this was a blinding explosion of colour, of vibrant sounds and fascinating words. It didn't matter that everyone laughed at me for my passion, it didn't matter that I used to borrow records from my friends' aunties and uncles, rather than from then. it didn't matter that i had to enjoy my obsession alone. I didn't want to share it. If I didn't share it then no-one could ever take it away from me.
The impact that had on my self-esteem, my outlook on life, and my PRIDE cannot be underestimated.
It wasn't confined solely to DD, my passion extended to pretty much anything brightly-coloured and ornately-dressed from the 1980s. I could occasionally indulge in this if one of my favourite artists was touring, but this was usually a now solo artist, a small venue, included some obscure new material. As that time had passed, I could never feel that mutli-coloured maDDness in all its glory.
Until now. And they're playing gigs and writing songs again. And it's good. And it's really fucking good. It's not a hastily thrown together greatest hits setlist with backing tracks to cash in on the latest nostalgia wave. It's as good as the first time. It's better. And it makes me so happy I could cry. Because now I am actually part of something I had to admire from the sidelines. Because the object of my obsession had always been in the past, it had quite a surreal quality. But now it's REAL, in glorious surround sound and technicolour.
It really doesn't bother me if people laugh, mock, criticise, whatever. I've had it my whole life, and it's never stopped me before. Having this wonderful thing to enjoy is a million times more important to me than conforming to what small-minded little people believe is "normal" behaviour. Let them enjoy their anger and frustration. I know what I'll be enjoying.
Mrs. Taylor (1):
I was 13! My birthday present from my very best friend was the new Duran single! Wild boys! On vinyl!
I had a crappy record player and we played it so loud and so many times that we blew the speaker!
I bought Rio a week later and it's the only DD album I owned for many years.
It wasn't about sex - I was 13! It was the music! The look, the feeling. The 80's. For the first time in my life, which so far had been boringly normal, I was me! I learned the words to every song and sang them constantly.
The music made me feel powerful. It was like a switch being thrown on the inside. It evoked powerful feelings and ever since music has been the passion of my life. I don't play an instrument (except a few guitar lessons 20 yrs ago). I have a half decent singing voice, but nothing to shout about. What I do have is an ear for music. It takes me to that place where I know I can feel real things and connect with something or someone.
I enjoyed being a teenager with all the new experiences and carefree life. I didn't go off the rails. I did spend every waking moment listening to music.
I have a huge music collection of things that I like. Not always what is fahionable and not always what others expect. Every single CD/Album/Cassette has a memory for me and that is the point I am trying to make.
I was a rock chick in the 90's, grew my hair and wore tight jeans and leather, stank of petchuli oil and listened to rock music. It was brilliant.
My husband is a guitar playing god! I was a groupie and followed his band everywhere. When he played I listened! At our wedding reception my Dad did a corny speech about music being a big part of our relationship. He said a good marriage is like a good melody. Has a regular beat, lifts you up and occaisionally gives you goose pimples. Cracked me up!
My hubby and I don't always see eye to eye, and have had our share of rocky moments but underneath it the music is where we connect and all that comes from blowing my speaker!!
I came full circle when I watched the Brits and DD got their award for outstanding contribution. It reminded me of being 13 and playing Wild Boys so loud I blew my speakers. I remembered wearing blue and pink eyeshadow together on the same eyelid!! Cerise lipstick and big hair! I remembered being in love with JT who over the years was replaced by many other guitar playing gods. I remember feeling fantastic when I queued for hours to get a ticket and then the disappointment of not getting one.
I much prefer the way DD look now! They have more sex appeal for me now.
I went to my first gig on 23rd April 2004. It was like being 13 again. The excitement of that feeling coming back after eight years of small children and keeping a job and paying a childminder, losing my identity, losing my spark, was unmeasurable.
Now that I have that feeling back I am buggered if I am gonna lose it again. The switch has been turned back on and I've put gaffer tape over it so no one can turn it off!
It feels to me that not only am I reliving my youth by rediscovering DD but spending time on this forum keeps it alive. I have found like minded people who for their own reasons have given a place in their hearts and minds to Duran Duran.
Thank you Sammie for starting this!
I have never put it in words before I doubt I ever shall again.
Duran Duran rule!!!
Oh and JT is sex on legs!!
John's Irish Bass Babe:
Crikey where do I start well at the begining is always a good place (so Julie Andrews said) 
I first saw Duran on The Old Grey Whilstle Test way back in early 82 the performed Anyone out there I ddin't really know who they were at the time but that song just wouldn't leave my head I thought it was fantastic something lyrically about the lines "I tired to phone last night but I caught you dreaming about days we use to wonder away" I was only starting to get really into music at that stage and I was constantly listening to the radio in the kitchen when I heard what became my absolute Favourite Duran song Save a prayer I can't really describe what that song did to me how I felt when I heard it the same way I feel today it's just a beautiful haunting song. So it was the music that first got me into Duran the lyrics were different strange but imaginative and then came the videos which were of course exotic and full of wonderful glamourous places and then HORMONES Went through the roof and I fell madly totally head over heels in love/lust/teenage/adult crush with John.
AT secondary school which in some ways was great but some ways a nightmare I had 2 other duranies I could rely on in a class that considered themselves too cool to like such music as Duran Duran but were into The Smiths and The Cure and obscure Indie bands. We would spend our breaks reading Smash Hits and swapping posters and listening to Seven and The Ragged Tiger and Arena on our walkmans. It was an innocent time and I loved them. But then Roger and Andy left I was heartbroken things started to change it was like the dream had died, they weren't the fab five anymore but I still had John he was still there, The 90's and entering my twenties kind of killed the teenager in me and I had to grow up a bit, I admit that I lost touch with Duran during the 90's somehow it wasn't really the same as before but I still listend to Rio and SART I was going through a tough time and when I heard Ordinary world well it just reminded me of what Duran meant to me that underneath it all the music was what it was about I was still a Duranie at heart. in 2004 I finally got to see the fab five looking and sounding better than ever and Well needless to say John sitll looking so darn sexy
And why is he my favourite well I could say oh its his looks, yes he has smile that would knock you out at a hundred paces and his eyes well talk about come to bed eyes
but the thing is he's lived the rock and roll lifestyle and got through it, shows such a strength of character and even though I only spoke to him for less than a minute (which I will treasure for the rest of my life) I could tell that he is a real nice guy
And Finally Duran Duran lead me to this wonderful place where I have met like minded maDD Wonderful people gone to concerts that I thought I wouldn't and Im having fun here To summarise
I Love Duran Duran and Im not ashamed to say to those that think Duran have had their day their past it yes I am a Duranie and Duran are only getting better and being in their 40's makes them a hell of a lot more sexier to me than the squaky 20 somethings that pass for popstars
Sammie (Leccie) :
This started as a rant...
I feel the need to write something... something to justify a (almost) lifelong fascination. Amongst the dirge in this space I find too much pain, too much angst and frankly too much time wasted worrying what others are thinking and doing. Yep.... I'm talking about the dreamers and their (evil) critics...
You see, for me.... the heart of it all wasn't sex... it wasn't JUST music.... it wasn't even the excess, decadence, beauty and hope (?) that the 80's shoved into our faces. OK, rewind... it all helped a little didn't it? Something good to feast our eyes upon, a lifestyle to dream about, something to aspire to in a depressed world. A glimmer of "YES!" through the downward spiral of the thatcher [STAT] years. Yes, I know I was too young to truly appreciate that, but with HINDsight I know that I had more of an INsight than I thought.
I remember, at thirteen years old, thrusting an album sleeve in my fathers face... "I have to GO dad" I shouted; "It is not a phase... NOT a flash in the pan. Look! Look at these words! They are not just songs... It's poetry". I was laughed at, obviously. I can laugh at my small self now, I don't think I have ever felt desperation like it to this day. But I got what I wanted. I got the gig ticket. And many more since.
The album cover was Seven and the Ragged Tiger.... I was already besotted with the honest elegance of "Careless Memories" from the first album; had laughed with hysterical adoration at the self indulgent dream that was "Rio", I was totally blown away by this later work of genius...
The gig? I cant remember much of it... I cried all the way through it! (daft tart eh?) But certainly not for the same reasons as the girl behind me... I'm convinced I can owe my frequent use of the words "What?" and "Say again?" to her incessant, ear drum perforating scream. I cried because I was in awe of the five men in front of me. In a world of "wake me up before you go go" I could hear the sweet sound of "Why did you let me run, when you knew I'd fall for the gaping hole where your heart should be?" Honest genius. It was my first experience of pure love, the energy that came with it was unbearable. Jesus it was bloody painful. Inspiration doesn't cover it. Life changing? Who knows? I was 13 years old and didn't really have a "path" at the time.
Now... fast forward! Dec 18th 2005... I'm watching these guys again, trying to decipher whatever it is that I am feeling... cos it was kinda weird you know? When you want to go shout something from a roof top and you don't know what the hell it is! Now that's just fucking annoying! It's writers block on overdrive! And then it hit me... it was bloody PRIDE...almost like my kids first day at school.... I WAS PROUD OF "MY BOYS". Add to all this the fact that my seven year old daughter was next to me... wearing her Duran Duran tshirt.......shouting, dancing and singing. (She also told me to "shut up!" because I was embarrassing her, but that's by the by).
A phone call the next day: "hey dad... do you remember telling me 22 years ago that it was just a phase?"
*laughter* "yes love"
"I went to see them last night dad... I told you it wasn't a phase...."
No laughter this time. I think he actually quite likes them!
I haven't met Duran Duran... I don't want to... I'm happy where I am...I haven't ever hung around on corners or backstage because I MIGHT get a glimpse of them...I have self respect....(yes I do!)
Heroes shape our lives, inspire us, influence us; and through it all we come out with our own unique brand of living. THIS isn't bullshit .. its been a long time coming... 24 years to be exact... Are you a idiot if you were inspired by The Stones? The Beatles? The Doors? Yeats? Byron? Quentin frigging Crisp?
So, I guess if you don't like it... "turn off your TV sets (computers) and go do something less boring instead!"
I know where I'm staying!
Han:
First heard them with my best friend Ash, sitting in the back of a van, singing along to my teacher's impression of sharika's 'underneath your clothes'. Which was 'underneath yourn eshalon' while wearing her hat and speeding along a stupidly thin road at many miles an hour. 'Rio' came on the radio, and became the theme of the holiday, and later, I guess, the theme of our whole friendship to date. We were hooked, bless us!
Byron Slingsby:
I was out in central London with two friends. We had spent the larger part of the evening at the East India Club on St James's Square, and were all dressed up and looking for somewhere to go.
Unfortunately, there are few places that three guys in suits can go that are not cheesy crap, and we ended up wandering for hours. Entering Leicester Square, we thought - hey! Café de Paris is just near here, and so headed doorwards. Turns out that Marie Claire Magazine are having their "reopening" party that night, and my friend Chris had to blag us through the front door. We ended up on the guest list, getting VIP treatment from all sides. It was pure luck that on the one occasion that I stopped at the bar on the way back from the toilet, that I realised that Mr Le Bon was standing next to me."Takes bloody ages to get served here..." he said - all I could do was smile and nod!!! I would honestly have been more articulate if robert de niro had stood next to me. My powers of speech failed me that night, but I have had a story with which to make my sister jealous ever since!!!!!
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